The age-old question: Do you see the glass as half empty or half full? I always answered (very proudly, I might add) that I am a glass half empty person. I would always follow that up with “I’m just realistic”.
For me, this mentality was hereditary. My parents are the King and Queen of negativity. Our family motto is “Life sucks and then you die”. I’m not even kidding. We say this. My Dad wanted to get t-shirts made. That’s how ingrained this mentality was in my life.
Little did I know that this mentality of seeing the glass half empty was ruining my life– and if you’re anything like me, it might be ruining yours too. I’ve come up with 5 reasons how and why it’s running your life and how you can start viewing the glass as half full.
- No One Likes To Be Around You
I’m sorry but this is true and it’s something that I had to learn to admit to myself, watch with myself and start to change. No one likes to be around someone who is constantly bringing down good vibes–Even if the vibes are your own! For example, let’s say that you’re starting a new business venture and you excitedly tell all your friends about it but then follow that up with “but it’s probably not going to work”. All of the sudden you’ve brought down all the positive vibes of your own AND the vibes of your friends. They’re suddenly skeptical because if you don’t believe in yourself, then someone else certainly is not! Let’s take the opposite situation where a friend comes to you with a business venture and then you list off all the ways in which their venture won’t work because you’re just “being realistic”. You’ve killed the vibes, not realizing that all this friend wanted was support and kindness.
People gravitate towards those who radiate positivity, and tend to shy away from those who are overly negative– which brings me to my next point…
2. Your Vibes Are Read As Off-Putting
I hate to say it but negative people exude negative vibes without even opening their mouths. Negativity can be seen externally by expression and body language. For example, my body language usually has a negative connotation: I sit or stand very closed off, arms close together and I have the popular “Resting Bitch Face”. I don’t think it’s a coincidence that I’m a negative person and my body language reflects that. We are what we think, both inside and out. The mind is a powerful tool. People who are negative do not draw others toward them. Do you have a smaller friend circle of people who “aren’t offended” by you? I certainly do. This is why.
3. Your Thoughts Are Bringing You the Short End of the Stick
Yes. Your negative thoughts are manifesting in your physical life. You’re worried about money all the time and keep thinking “I’ll never be financially stable enough to do what I want” and your financial situation keeps getting worse. You’re getting frustrated in your dating life and keep thinking “I’ll never find the one and I am going to end up alone forever” and consequently all your dates are flops. This is probably one of the biggest reasons why being negative is so detrimental to your life. We are what we put out into the Universe. The Universe can’t sense whether we want or don’t want something to happen, it just gives us what we put out there. If you’re constantly thinking about debt and bills and being alone forever, that’s what’s going to come to you. I can pretty much guarantee it.
4. You Don’t Believe in Anything
You’re skeptical of literally everything. God, The Universe and anything that deviates from the norm you’ve created in your head. As a constant skeptic, not believing in anything other than what you think you can easily create yourself is exhausting! I’m not saying you have to believe in God or join a church. I most certainly don’t. I’m just saying that having a little faith goes a long way.
5. You Have No Self Confidence
Negativity is a blanket and a shield of protection. It’s been my safeguard my entire life from the outside world because I was afraid to be myself. I struggled with confidence in myself and I still do. Being negative is a way to safeguard yourself from failure and rejection, but all it really does is keep you in the sidelines of your own life.
So How Do We Change This?
It’s simple. Once I realized that my negative thoughts and outlook on life were basically causing my life to manifest negatively, I became hyper aware of my thoughts. No, you don’t have to monitor yourself all day, but when I said or thought something negative and caught myself, I would say “I release this thought to the Universe and I choose to see this situation in another way”. You have to be able to release your negative thoughts to a force bigger than yourself and truly believe that once you have chosen to replace your negative thought with a positive one that the Universe will react in your favor.
It also helps to believe in something. I believe in the power of energy and the Universe and when I’m in touch with my own thoughts and feelings and feel connected with the Universe, good things start to happen. I no longer live in a world of mishap after blunder after hurdle. I live in a world of joy and light when I believe the Universe works with my thoughts to give me what I desire.
When I actively try to see the world with a glass half full mentality, I have more friends in my life, I feel better and life flows better. Of course I have my moments and my days but being aware and knowing that when I am in a positive space that I actually do see results in my life has been enough for me to change. So if you’re negative like I am take a look at your life. Are you living the life you want to be living or are you letting negativity get in the way? Comment Below!