Getting motivated, for me, is one of the HARDEST things to do. I’ll own up to it, I am LAZY. Next to my name is the dictionary is the picture of a sloth. I’ve wasted so much of my free time doing nothing (*cough cough* scrolling on Instagram *cough cough*) that I’ve found it hard to even start doing the things I love again. Especially since I live alone, there’s no one to keep me accountable for how I spend my time other than me (veryyyy dangerous). I’ve found a way to get myself motivated and I’ve finally learned how to stay there, and I wanted to share my secrets with all of you!
- ACTION REQUIRES…ACTION
Okay– this may seem obvious but I feel like this gets overlooked. I’ve spent so many of my days dreaming of super cool things I would do “one day”. I was going to start a blog (Hi, guys!), get really good at sewing, learn how to draw, take painting lessons, redecorate my apartment, learn a language, meal prep every week, start exercising…. the list goes on and on. It’s a great deal to have the idea but action requires action. In order to get a larger ball rolling you need to start making smaller action moves. Once you start making small moves, the larger ones will come easier. I started by making sure I got ready every day before work (aka putting on makeup and a nice outfit instead of rolling out of bed directly into the office). After I was able to do that for a week, I moved onto cooking more of my meals. Then I deep cleaned my entire apartment… then I started a blog! My small motivated acts naturally lead me to be motivated for larger projects.
- SET REASONABLE GOALS
At my core, I’m not an organized person BUT (there’s always a “but”) I function better when I have goals. It keeps me accountable and motivated. My goals are small (i.e. Tuesday: cook the food I bought at the grocery store so I don’t have to cook the rest of the week. Monday: take out the trash. Wednesday: write 3-4 blog posts). My goals are small. My goals are 1-2 per day. They’re attainable. Once I start making my action moves and getting motivated, it’s very easy for me to fall off. If I have goals, I am able to keep myself motivated and ultimately feeling like my best self. I don’t write all of my goals down, some I keep in my mind but some I do. It depends on how I’m feeling and it depends on what’s going to work for you.
- THINK ABOUT THE ALTERNATIVE
There’s nothing I enjoy more than a bottle of wine after a long work day. I have a very stressful job and there’s nothing I love coming home to some wine– but then I always have to think about the consequences– I wake up late, with a headache and my entire next day is completely off. Same thing goes for if I don’t feel like doing dishes after I’ve spent an hour cooking. I imagine my sink piled high with dishes and I immediately do the ones I have. When I think about going back to being “lazy” or “unmotivated”, I think about how things get when I get into a slump. My apartment gets out of hand, all my groceries go bad because I haven’t meal prepped, I stay up binge watching “Making a Murderer” (second season was SO GOOD guys!) and go back to doing nothing and feeling crappy. When I think about the alternative when I’m feeling lazy, I’m less likely to go back to the way things were.
- FORGIVE YOURSELF
This I really had to learn. I am an “all-or-nothing” type of person. Either I’m super organized and dedicated to a project or I stop doing it. Either I deep clean my entire apartment or I won’t clean at all. I can be really put together and organized but the moment I let one thing slip it all goes out the window. I used to never give myself slack for slacking. You have to or else you will never stay motivated. Sometimes motivation needs rest. Sometimes motivation needs wine. Forgive yourself for giving yourself a break or you will never accomplish anything.
These are my short and simple tips to how I’ve become motivated and how I’ve stayed motivated. My small actions always lead to bigger ones, I set my goals, think about the alternative of “what if I didn’t do this right now?” and I always forgive myself. If you apply this to any larger goal you have, you will get there and see results, I promise! As always, and most importantly, always do what speaks to you.
If you’ve tried this, done something similar, or have other ways of keeping yourself motivated I would love to hear about it! Leave it in the comments!